Appearances

I’m as snarky as the next person.  However, I have always drawn the line at mocking someone because of their appearance.

Year ago, when Obama was starting his run for the Presidency, I had a lot of women friends, conservative bloggers, as I was,  who made a ton of fun of Michelle Obama because of her appearance.

I am not fan of Obama or his wife, but I cut ties with those women because, to me, criticism of someone’s appearance is shallow and meaningless.  Criticize their political positions, criticize their honesty, criticize their ideas, but for God’s sake, no one has much control over  their appearance.

And I’m sure part of my pique was because so many of the otherwise wonderful conservative women bloggers I was engaged with were quite beautiful women, and, yeah, I am not beautiful.  I’m kind of odd.  Not ugly, but not beautiful or fashionable.

Plus making fun of how someone looks is much more hurtful than just disagreeing with their viewpoints on this, that, or the other.

Today, someone mocked me for my looks. Said I looked like someone who started out as a man and then had a sex change operation.

That hurt me more than almost anything anyone could say about my political positions, my education, my interests, whatever.

So, looking back on things, I know that I was right back some years ago when I broke off ties with those gorgeous conservative women I was aligned with, because it is very hurtful when someone makes fun of how you look.

God made me who I am.  I cannot help it if someone thinks I look like a transgendered man – or is it woman? hell, I don’t know.

So I guess this is a warning to people I know.  Make fun of anyone’s looks, and I will no longer be friends with you.  I don’t care if you are making fun of someone who is politically opposite me – complain about their positions, not their physiques.